Saturday, November 8, 2008

Cab ride

I know this is not knew but I just love it. I want to raise my children to always be like the driver....full of compassion and grace. What is the secret? We all stand the chance of being that lady. But we can all make sure we are the cabdriver. I have met so many cab drivers in the last month and a half (not real ones...you know what I mean...lol).

Get a hankie. Enjoy.

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The Cab Ride I'll Never Forget
by Kent Nerburn

Twenty years ago, I drove a cab for a living. One time I arrived in the middle of the night for a pick up at a building that was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window. Under these circumstances, many drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, then drive away. But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.

So I walked to the door and knocked. "Just a minute," answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor. After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 80's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie. By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman. She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness.

"It's nothing," I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated."

"Oh, you're such a good boy," she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"

"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said. "I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice."

I looked in the rear view mirror. Her eyes were glistening.

"I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long."

I quietly reached over and shut off the meter. "What route would you like me to take?" I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico. Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her. I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.

"Nothing," I said.

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers."

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said. "Thank you."

I squeezed her hand, then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly, lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware—beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

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xoxo

8 comments:

Johnna_Wallace said...

That is such a sweet story. It makes me stop and think how often I am impatient and unkind. Thank you for sharing, Maureen. I am thinking of you daily.

Anonymous said...

Wow. That really sums it all up, doesn't it? I feel so not worthy. Thank you for sharing that, Maureen.

Maureen said...

My first comment on my own blog. Johnna saying she is at any time ever unkind and Chris saying he is unworthy are equally preposterous (I always wanted to use that word and sound like "Lovey" Howell on Gilligans Island).

Johnna, you are so wonderful and generous and kind to ALL living things: people and animals! You are a true gem!!! And Chris, worthy? As president of your fan club, I am here to tell you that you epitomize that cab driver. Saying you are kind is an understatement.

Okay, sorry to bud in. xoxo

Anonymous said...

I love that story. It does bring tears to my eyes. I wish you, Michelle, Oscar and Angelica a very peaceful and comfortable evening! I love you.
Kisses,
Carrie
Remember Fierce not Fear!

Anonymous said...

Hi Maureen, it made me laugh that you made a comment. It's sort of like a one way conversation :-)
This is a great story. I probably would have just honked....but from now on it will make me stop and think.
I hope you have a great day today. As always, lifting you, Oscar and Angelica up in prayer.
Love, Janet

Anonymous said...

Hey Mo,
I am thinking about you. Missed your blog today. I hope you start to feel better.
Kisses,
Carrie

Anonymous said...

everyone has written such beautiful prose on love, strength and faith today, I decided i would write a disclaimer to her praise of simple sisterly love, and a warning for the record.

without maureen's friends we would have all starved because i can't cook worth a hoot and microwave technology is beyond my skill level....so i thank you all for giving us something to reheat!! ha ha. poor oscar will probably throw up if he sees mashed potatoes and peas again in his life ~~

mimi gets all starry eyed just because i fold the laundry...so that was an exceptionally easy score in the appreciation department.

maureen may be sick, but you just try keeping up with her...you need secret rocket boosters to stay one step ahead. while i do think she needs to drink ensures, i'm secretly glad i won't be around when she does because then it will be revealed once and for all i'm no match for Project Mama.

and for anyone who thinks maureen has lost her sense of humor, you are in serious trouble indeed. her wicked sense of practical jokes seems to be benefitting from all those little pills she takes every night, so don't say i didn't warn you.

one particularly traumatic prank was her coming out of the shower one day with a distraught look on her face holding a huge handful of her hair in her hands telling me it was from washing her hair.

as i'm trying to put on the brave face and gather the best supportive thoughts she bursts out laughing that mimi gotcha laugh ... she had saved the hair from her last haircut. i tell ya, that was the end of sympathy from me.

but honestly, mimi, thank you for all of your loving praise, but it is you who brings forth the best in us all.

love
michele

p.s. do NOT let her canoodle you into thinking Odie the peeing puppy just loves you so much he keeps telling her he wants to go home with you.

gblaze said...

Wow Maureen, this story brought tears to my eyes. And just yesterday in Starbucks I offered to help a very elderly lady in line and she yelled at me. I was taken aback and retreated to my own space. Then as I was leaving the same elderly lady was scraping her walker toward the door behind me, and in the first instant, I wanted to just let the door slam behind me--since she so clearly did not want my help before.

But I paused on this selfish thought and said no. I turned and held the door for her slow, scraping shuffle. And as she shuffled by she said so sweetly, "Thank-you dear" as if she was another person than just a few moments before.

Giving should come from the heart and without expectation--it's a beautiful story, Maureen.

--Ginny